Letter to your children

How to Write a Letter to Your Child

Learn How to Write a Letter to Your Child with these easy and helpful letter writing tips!

In this post, I’ll share with you how to choose the right location, time, and supplies for your letter writing.

You’ll also read about how to choose what to say in your letter with a list of things you can include in the letter.

At the end of the post, you’ll find examples of letters that you can write to your child to help you get started.

As a mom, you may find yourself wanting to write a letter to your child. There are many reasons why this might be appealing.

Perhaps you want to tell them about their birth story, or share some wisdom that you’ve gained along the way.

Or maybe you just want to let them know that you love them and are thinking of them.

Whatever the reason, writing a letter to your child can be a really special experience. In this post, I’ll share some tips on how to make a letter to your child as meaningful as possible.

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When I sat back to think about writing a letter to my child, it wasn’t hard to come up with a list of reasons why my child is amazing and inspiring.

The problem is, I can get so busy with life that I don’t always take the time to tell my children these things personally, so writing a letter is a great way to sit down, collect my thoughts, and make sure each child knows how I feel about them with words.

I’d like to challenge you to take some time to write a letter to your child soon!

Letter writing is a great communication tool, but it can be difficult to write a letter because it takes time and focused energy to sit down and put your thoughts into words.

If you need some tips on writing a letter to your child, these tips may help.

Benefits of Writing a Letter to Your Child

Writing a letter to your child is a cherished tradition that can be very meaningful for both parents and children.

It’s also a great way to stay connected when you are apart. Letters offer the opportunity for parents to share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences with their children in a way that goes beyond just telling them what happened during the day.

They also provide kids with a window into their parents’ lives and hearts. If you have never written one before, the tips mentioned in this post can help!

The most important thing is to start today so you can enjoy the process of writing and giving letters throughout the year.

How to Write a Letter to Your Child

Gather your writing supplies.

You’ll want to make sure you have everything you need to write a letter when you decide to get started on your personal letter.

Here are a few letter writing supplies and options you may find helpful.

• Pens for Letter Writing
• Letter Writing Paper
• Stationary Set
• Envelopes
• Decorative Stamps
• Decorative Stickers

Find the right time to write a letter.

There’s no best time to write a letter to your child – just do it when the feeling strikes you!

It’s always nice for them to receive a handwritten note from you, whether it’s just to say hi or to express your love and pride.

Pick a quiet moment when you have some time to yourself, and let the words flow from your heart. Your child will cherish your letter forever.

Pick a Location where you’d like to write your letter.

There are many different places where you can write a letter to your child. You can write it anywhere that is special to you, or anywhere that has meaning for your relationship. Here are some ideas to get you started:

• Coffee shop
• Local library
• Home office
• Your favorite cozy space in your home
• Place where you first met your child
• Child’s favorite park or playground
• Your backyard patio
• Anywhere that reminds you of a happy memory with your child
• In the car
• Beach

You can also write your letter to your child anywhere that you feel comfortable and safe.

Just remember to choose a place where you’ll be able to focus on your thoughts and feelings, and where you’ll have some privacy to write.

What type of letter do you want to write to your child?

There are many types of letters that you can write to your child. You may want to write a letter of love and encouragement, or a letter apologizing for something you have done.

Whatever the reason, it is important to choose the right type of letter for your child.

Some common types of letters to write to your child include:

A Letter of Love and Encouragement

This type of letter is perfect for telling your child how much you love and appreciate them. It is also a great way to encourage them in their pursuits and remind them that you are always there for them.

A Letter Apologizing for Something You Have Done

If you have made a mistake, it is important to apologize to your child. This will show them that you are willing to take responsibility for your actions and that you care about their feelings.

A Letter Asking Forgiveness

If you have done something that has hurt your child, it is important to ask for their forgiveness. This shows them that you are remorseful for your actions and that you value their relationship.

A Letter Congratulating Your Child on a Job Well Done

Whether your child has achieved a personal goal or accomplished something great, it is always nice to write a letter congratulating them on a job well done. This shows them that you are proud of their accomplishments and that you support their efforts.

No matter what type of letter you choose to write, be sure to write it from the heart. Your child will appreciate your words more if they can see that you are genuinely sincere.

Choose a type of letter that you feel will best express your feelings and be sure to take your time in writing it.

A well-written letter can make a world of difference to your child.

How to choose what to say in a letter to your child

Are you trying to decide what you should write about in a letter to your child? Here are some tips!

Think about what your child means to you. What are some of the things you love about them? What are you proud of them for? These are all great things to write about in a letter to your child.

Consider sharing some of your own experiences with your child. What lessons have you learned in life that you think would be valuable for them to know?

Think about what advice you would want to give your child. What do you want them to know about life? What do you want them to remember?

Take some time to think about what you want to say in a letter to your child.

This is an opportunity to really express your thoughts and feelings, so make sure to choose something that is important to you and that you think will be meaningful for them.

List of things you may include in a letter to your child

1. Tell your child you love them unconditionally.

2. Tell your child that you are proud of them and list a few reasons why you are proud of them.

3. Tell your child that you value your relationship with them.

4. Let your child know what kinds of things you like about them and/or the activities you like to do with them.

5. List out things that your child is good at.

6. Keep your letter short. Remember quality vs. quantity.

7. Leave out any negative criticism or complaints about your child.

8. Keep this in mind when writing your letter: “What did you like to hear from your own parents or wish you would have heard from your own parents if they were to write you a letter?

9. Use these positive words throughout your letter: love, proud, enjoy, cherish, & believe

10. Be honest with your child, in a positive way. Open up to him or her. This is your time to really tell your child how much he or she means to you.

Hopefully these tips will help you write a meaningful letter to your child!

Now that you have a few ideas of what to include in your letter, here are example letters that you can use to help you get started on your letter writing to your child.

Example letters:

Example 1:

Dear child,

I am so proud of the person you are becoming.

You are kind, caring, and always think of others. I can’t wait to see all the wonderful things you will do in your life.

I am grateful to be your parent and witness all your accomplishments. Keep up the great work!

Love always,

Mom

Example 2:

Dear child,

I hope this letter finds you well. I wanted to write and tell you how much I love you and how proud I am of you.

You are such a smart, talented young man/woman with so much potential. It brings me joy to see you doing so well in school and following your dreams.

I know there will be challenges along the way, but I know that you have the strength and determination to overcome them.

I will always be here for you, no matter what. I love you more than anything in this world, and I am so proud to be your mother.

With all my love,

Mom

Example 3:

My dearest child,

I hope this letter finds you well. I wanted to write to you and tell you how much I love you. You are the light of my life and I am so proud of you.

I hope that you always remember how much I love you, no matter what happens in life.

No matter what storms we face in life, know that I will always be here for you, cheering you on and supporting you every step of the way. You are my everything and I will never give up on you.

I hope that this letter gives you strength and comfort knowing that no matter what, I will always love you unconditionally.

With all my love,

Mom

Example 4:

Dear Child,

I hope this letter finds you well. I wanted to write and tell you how much I love you and how proud I am of the person you are becoming. It seems like only yesterday you were a little baby, and now you’re growing up so fast!

It has been such a joy to watch you grow and learn new things. You have such a bright future ahead of you, and I know that you will achieve great things in your life.

I am so grateful to be your mom and to have the privilege of watching you grow into the amazing person that you are.

I love you unconditionally and no matter what happens in life, know that I will always be here for you. You are the light of my life and I am so proud to be your mother.

With all my love,

Mom

Example 5:

My dearest child,

I wanted to write you a letter and tell you about all the things I am proud of. I am so proud of you and all that you have accomplished. You are such a shining example to others and an inspiration to me. You have made me so proud.

You have always been such a good example to others, even from a young age. I remember when you were just a little girl/boy, you would always help your friends and classmates.

You would go out of your way to make sure everyone felt included and accepted. You have always had such a kind heart.

You have always worked hard in school and achieved excellent grades. But more importantly, you have never been afraid to put yourself out there and try new things. You have always been confident and fearless.

You are such a beautiful person, inside and out. You have always been so positive and optimistic, no matter what life throws your way. You are always looking for the good in people and situations.

I am so proud of the person you have become and I know that you will continue to achieve great things in life. I love you so much, my dear child.

Always,

Mom

Get Started on Your Letter!

Now that you have the basic structure of a letter to your child, it’s time to get started. The most important part is simply putting thoughts and feelings into words.

Don’t worry about making the letter perfect – just let your heart speak through the pen (or keyboard).

Get started today on telling your child how much they mean to you. They will cherish these letters for a lifetime!

A Letter to My Son and Life Lessons for Him to Follow

My dear sweet boy,

You are such a blessing to my life and I love watching you grow! You are just now beginning to show your amazing personality and I am so proud of the young man I see you becoming. You are more perfect than I could have ever dreamed when I found out we were having a little boy. Before I started having babies, I knew I would have a son; I even had your name picked out!

Sweetheart, I wish I could change some of the harsh realities that have already happened in your young life. I wish we lived in a world where tragedy didn’t strike innocent children. But I can’t change the past and I can’t protect you from all the bad things as much as I want to. The best I can do, son, is teach you and guide you to the best of my ability. As you grow, there are a few fundamental things I want you to cling to. Use them as your guidebook, especially when life gets tough.

Spread kindness like wildfire.

Your dad was the epitome of kindness. Everywhere he went, and to everyone he met, he spread kindness and laughter. Son, you have your Daddy’s same kind heart and compassionate nature. Hold on to that, even when life gets hard. Your Daddy was so widely loved and admired because he loved and admired everyone around him. Everyone deserves kindness, baby. Don’t be afraid to show it.

Be brave and courageous.

There will be times in your life where you’d rather hide or run or bury your head in the sand than face whatever challenge is in your way. I know because I’ve been there many times. In those times, I want you to remember to be brave and show courage. But bravery and courage don’t have to come from you; in fact, it often doesn’t because we, as humans, struggle with the strong grip of fear. Often it overwhelms us. When that happens, always call on God to give you courage and be brave. He will give you the strength you need to get through the battle you’re facing.

Be respectful.

I have already begun to teach you how to respect your elders. Even as a tiny young thing, I am so proud of how polite you are. Keep that up, son. Everyone deserves respect and I expect you to show it. I expect you to respect your teachers and your friends. I expect you to respect law enforcement and those in authority over you. I especially expect you to respect girls, and later, women. When you show respect to others, even when they’re being jerks to you, you will always come out on top.

Remember how blessed you are.

Life is full of hills and valleys, some valleys being worse than others. You have already experienced a deep valley in your young life. Unfortunately, none of us are immune to tragedy. It is easy to count our blessings when we are riding high on top of those hills. The true measure of a person, I believe, is when you can still see the blessings you have in the midst of those valleys. Always remember, no matter what you’re going through in life, be it a big or small challenge, that you are incredibly blessed. When you are facing a challenge, focus on your blessings and hang on to them tight.

Love like your father loved me.

Your Daddy loved me more deeply than I ever thought was possible. He always put me and my needs before his own and he was more concerned with my happiness than his. Son, your dad, loved me with a sacrificial kind of love that all men are called to, but few accomplish. I want you to love your future wife like your Daddy loved me. Love her with everything you have, love her with all your heart, be faithful to her and show her (don’t just tell her) you love her EVERY DAY. One of the very last things your Daddy told me was that he loved me more than his own life. And I know he did. I will treasure that love for the rest of my life.

Put your family first.

I know it’s going to be hard to keep this in mind when working hard to provide for your family or to rise up that corporate ladder, but please remember to put your family first. Always. In all ways. Your family should be at the heart of every decision you make, and if that means turning down a promotion because it would take you away from your kids, so be it. That’s not to say that you should stifle your dreams or cut down your goals; it just means that you need to make sure that whatever decisions you make in your career are truly what’s best for your family. Because in the end, they are all you have.

It is always the right choice to do the right thing.

Son, you will be faced with the temptation to do lots of things because all the other boys are doing it. It may be the temptation to smoke or make fun of the new kid, treat a girl like an object, or cheat on a test. None of these things are worth it in the end. Not only will you disappoint me by choosing the wrong thing, but you will also ultimately disappoint yourself, and that is a far worse feeling.

Doing the right thing is often going to take a great deal of courage and bravery. It will likely make you feel like a bit of an outcast at times. It may even make you the target of nasty comments. I will always be here to help you with making the right choice, and I will be here to help you get through whatever may come from your choice. And I know that you will probably make mistakes here and there, but I want you to remember that a mistake is just a vehicle for learning an important lesson. And I will be here to help you through that, too.

Always put God at the center.

Just like you should always put your family first, so too should you always put God at the center of everything. Your job, your hobbies, your family decisions . . . make sure God is at the center of it all. Even and especially during the tough times. When you make Him the center, you will be blessed, son. I promise you this.

My baby, you are far too young for any of this to mean anything to you right now. But I promise that one day you will need these bits and pieces of advice. Tuck them away in your heart and draw them out when you need them. You are a wonderful blessing to me, to your Daddy, and the world. You are meant for great things, son. I can’t wait to see how you make your mark!

Love,

Mommy

"Letter to my growing children" | PSYCHOLOGIES

Dear children, I watch you sleep. I lean so close I can feel your breath on my cheek. Today I think about the good. I remember how you took my hand and told a story about a slug that was found near a puddle. I break into a smile as I sit in the dark. I remember conversations and suddenly I understand what adults you are becoming. When did you grow up so much?

I look at you and my heart is ready to burst with love. Motherhood has made me strong and fragile. Ever since you were born, every day I have struggled with the desire to take over the world and throw it at your feet. I wish I could keep you safe by my side for the rest of my life. But I will make an effort on myself and give you wings in return for love. The day you use them, I will weep uncontrollably.

You become adults, and sometimes I look at you as babies. I know it upsets you. Just a moment ago, you climbed into bed with me in only diapers, we lay in an embrace until sunrise. Just a moment ago, you were sitting in the car seats behind me and repeating the words that I spoke while driving. Just a moment ago, I had a small team whose members were up to my waist.

Everyone warned me about how fast children grow up, but that didn't prepare me.

I am often consumed by vanity. The kitchen was a mess, the car full of cookie crumbs, the upholstery of the chairs tainted with juice. You need to cook, wash mountains of laundry, clean blankets from stains. There is a constant struggle going on inside. I feel like I can't do anything.

I don't want to miss important moments of your life, but it happens.

It is a great honor for me to be your mother. You are a real treasure that I was entrusted with

I look at you lying under the covers and wonder: when did your legs manage to become so long and your arms thin? Recently we bought you deodorants, now you need them more than I do. The future inspires and scares me at the same time. I know that if I close my eyes for a moment, the time I am destined to spend with you will come to an end. The very thought of it hurts me.

I reach out to you and squeeze your hands. As long as I live, I will remember how you curled up on my chest, how you held your plump hands in yours. I know you won't understand this until you become a parent yourself one day. This is fine. I didn't understand before either.

I am honored to be your mother. You are a true treasure that I have been entrusted with. You are the best thing that happened to me. You forgive me faster and love me more than anyone else.

Raising you, I have grown myself and am very grateful for that. Please grow up more. Motherhood is a constant bitterness and a constant joy.

I have always loved and will love you,

Mom.

Veronika Kazantseva, psychologist

Adolescence is a period of evolution when a child separates from his parents. He begins to devalue adults, and everything that he was told and advised before is isolated and grows up in this way. Parents no longer have the right to show their child that they know more and better than him. It is important to become a friend to a teenager: do not criticize and do not run to save when a child talks about something that causes rejection or anxiety in you. Sometimes it is better to remain silent, move away, and then calmly discuss the topic raised without edification and accusations.

Try to study psychological literature, pay special attention to age norms of behavior. If you know exactly how children behave in adolescence, it will be harder to shock you: forewarned is forearmed. You will understand that the rudeness and rebelliousness of a child is a feature of age, and not a sign of bad manners and a bad attitude towards you. This will help with understanding and patience to respond to teenage antics. In addition, you will know that all children and parents go through this without exception. You will feel more confident knowing that you are not alone.

Constantly remind yourself how you want your child to be in the future: independent and self-sufficient or dependent and insecure? If the former, then do not forget to provide him with the necessary share of freedom: for example, let him decide what to wear to school, or independently choose the time for doing homework.

You know your child's strengths and weaknesses - help him in areas where he is not yet able to cope

The best way to interact with adolescents is to compromise. When setting limits, consider the wishes of the child. Don't get hung up on the little things. For example, your son was going to spend the night with a friend, and you told him to be at home at 22:00. If he returned at 22:30, it's okay. So he fulfilled your demand, but "did not drop his face": he won a little freedom for himself.

But too much freedom is also bad. Parental controls should not be completely excluded. You know the strengths and weaknesses of your child - help him in areas where he is not yet able to cope. For example, the daughter irrationally allocates time and does not have time for anything. Help her - start a diary, teach planning techniques, become her "organizer" for a while: remind, allocate time to analyze successes and failures, help draw conclusions. Gradually, she will learn and begin to cope on her own.

Talk to children. Despite their "pricklyness" and burning desire for independence, they still need your support. Discuss everything in a row - both everyday affairs, and far-reaching plans, and acute social topics. By talking with a teenager and not setting taboos on certain issues, you learn to understand him better. You will know what he thinks, what his decisions are based on. Thanks to this, if necessary, you will be able to influence his point of view and help in time if necessary.

Source: wonderoak.com

About the Expert

Veronika Kazantseva – clinical psychologist, specializes in family and individual consultations, group therapy, diagnostics.

Text: Zhanna Omelyanenko Photo source: Getty Images

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You should write a letter to your children, regardless of their age - Smart girl

Being a mother or a father is not easy, although children believe that it is not, because they are obliged to take care of them and guide them in the right path in life. Even if they don't know how to explain it in their own words, they still believe in their hearts that "adults" should do their best for them.

The best gift you can give your children when they grow up and you are no longer around is a piece of paper written in your own handwriting. Your children will have a lot of grief, pain and grief because you will no longer be with them. But this piece of paper will become their great treasure, there is not enough money in the world to pay the price it will have for your children.

Do not write long text

The letter does not have to be long, it can be a simple poem or just words that come from your heart. It is important that the words are sweet, beautiful and wise. It could be a farewell letter or a letter in which you express your love for them despite life's difficulties.

If you really like the idea of ​​leaving a letter to your children when you are no longer around and keeping it as a legacy, we will give you an example so that you can write a letter that your children will hold in their hearts.

Sample letter to your children

"If you are reading this letter, it is because something may have happened that is causing us to no longer be together. Life is not easy for everyone and you will also experience difficulties, who can make you think that you no longer have the strength to continue living .... But you know, when you think that everything is too hard, then do not forget that you had a mother who loved you more than life itself, and that now, even if I'm not with you, I will continue to love you, wherever I am. 0046