Teach a child in the way

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:7 The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender.

New International Version
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender.

New Living Translation
Just as the rich rule the poor, so the borrower is servant to the lender.

English Standard Version
The rich rules over the poor, and the borrower is the slave of the lender.

Berean Standard Bible
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender.

King James Bible
The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.

New King James Version
The rich rules over the poor, And the borrower is servant to the lender.

New American Standard Bible
The rich rules over the poor, And the borrower becomes the lender’s slave.

NASB 1995
The rich rules over the poor, And the borrower becomes the lender’s slave.

NASB 1977
The rich rules over the poor, And the borrower becomes the lender’s slave.

Legacy Standard Bible
The rich rules over the poor, And the borrower is the slave of the lender.

Amplified Bible
The rich rules over the poor, And the borrower is servant to the lender.

Christian Standard Bible
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is a slave to the lender.

Holman Christian Standard Bible
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is a slave to the lender.

American Standard Version
The rich ruleth over the poor; And the borrower is servant to the lender.

Aramaic Bible in Plain English
A rich man will be authorized by the poor and the Servant will lend to him who was his lender.

Brenton Septuagint Translation
The rich will rule over the poor, and servants will lend to their own masters.

Contemporary English Version
The poor are ruled by the rich, and those who borrow are slaves of moneylenders.

Douay-Rheims Bible
The rich ruleth over the poor: and the borrower is servant to him that lendeth.

English Revised Version
The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.

GOD'S WORD® Translation
A rich person rules poor people, and a borrower is a slave to a lender.

Good News Translation
Poor people are slaves of the rich. Borrow money and you are the lender's slave.

International Standard Version
The wealthy rule over the poor, and anyone who borrows is a slave to the lender.

JPS Tanakh 1917
The rich ruleth over the poor, And the borrower is servant to the lender.

Literal Standard Version
The rich rules over the poor, | And a servant [is] the borrower to the lender.

Majority Standard Bible
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender.

New American Bible
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is the slave of the lender.

NET Bible
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.

New Revised Standard Version
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is the slave of the lender.

New Heart English Bible
The rich rule over the poor. The borrower is servant to the lender.

Webster's Bible Translation
The rich ruleth over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.

World English Bible
The rich rule over the poor. The borrower is servant to the lender.

Young's Literal Translation
The rich over the poor ruleth, And a servant is the borrower to the lender.

Additional Translations ...

6 ways to teach your child to learn

One of the most common parental requests is “The child does not want to learn, what should I do?”. But in order to want to learn, you must at least be able to learn. And this is a skill! Our blogger, child psychologist Olga Kondrashova talks about how to acquire and develop this skill.

You should not expect that a child will be able to do it on his own: while a small person is in grades 1-2 (in grade 3, responsibility for oneself more or less begins to turn on), he is not yet very collected, organized, simply “sane”. Therefore, he needs outside control, that is, he must simply be taught to learn, to show how it is done. nine0003

Of course, there are children who, due to increased anxiety, for example, fear of the teacher or parents, or, conversely, excessive fascination with the teacher (more common among girls), are themselves worried about doing homework. But this is rather an exception to the general rule. So, the responsibility for a child's ability to learn lies largely with adults!

Now there are many expert assessments that come down to the thesis - the child's interest is above all. I agree that it is criminal to crush the initiative of a child. But, unfortunately, excitement from novelty falls even in an adult, and the ability to return oneself to concentration, whether it be solving a problem or simply assimilating new information, I think, will remain relevant. At least until we are "chip" with already built-in programs, by analogy with gadgets. But for now, you and I have children, not robots. And after a certain time, your child will move from elementary school to high school, where it will be more difficult to study. nine0003

In addition, the motivational priority shifts in high school — the child “flies” from the importance of learning to the importance of establishing social connections (friends are above all!)

he will no longer fall into hopelessness or despair - "everything is useless, everything is already so neglected, such a wild volume, I can no longer cope with it, there is no point in even starting!". There will be no such problems if the child already has a conscious experience of "inclusion" in the lessons. How to keep the attention of the child during the lessons? nine0003

1. Give new meaning to boring tasks

For example, a child needs to learn how to write letters beautifully. Options: “OK, how are we going to write a message to Santa Claus? He won’t understand anything in your scribbles, it will be a shame if you don’t get what you ask for for the New Year ”... Or: “Let's write a letter to grandmother? You just need to write so that she can read, she doesn’t see very well!” Or: “What if you find yourself on a desert island? Then you will need to write a message to people and send it in a bottle. Let's learn to write legibly! nine0003

2. Stimulate intrinsic motivation

You can ask a child and encourage him to think about what this or that skill will give him - the ability to read, write, count, memorize. This can become the basis of his own intrinsic motivation - the strongest and brightest stimulus. Alas, it burns brightly, but not for very long. It will be necessary to periodically remind the child about the benefits of what he himself once thought of and what he himself came to.

3. Change roles - instead of a student "teacher"

All lecturers know that if you want to know a subject better, give a lecture on it. We turn the child into a teacher, put all his bunnies, cars, bears, dolls in front of him and play school. By the way, you can also play along in the role of the most naughty and most "talentless" student - "Oh, how difficult it is to write these numbers! I can't do it at all!" Or deliberately make a lot of mistakes. Usually children are very happy when they see themselves from the outside.

This technique relieves tension, allows you to speak in a safe mode and realize the difficulty of learning. And this, as you remember, improves self-control and increases "sanity", that is, the child sees an obstacle (laziness, inattention, inability to force himself to finish) with which he needs to cope. nine0003

Plus, this reduces the fear of making mistakes. This is a very important point, because children at school are constantly in the zone of anxiety and incompetence - every day they are faced with new material, new tasks and new requirements for their intellectual abilities. The ability to calmly endure failures and mistakes is an important quality that allows you to move forward, and not fall into the pit "I am a worthless clumsy."

After some time, when you see that the child has mastered the skill of "doing homework", we gradually begin to leave him alone. But it is necessary to make sure that the child understands that failure to do homework and poor study in general have negative emotional consequences for him. That is, you need to create a field of expectations around it, in which there are necessarily two topics.

First, let him know that you appreciate his efforts. You can say: “We are happy when you are doing well” or “We are upset when you are not doing well.” So the child will learn that you respect his work, his efforts on himself, his ability to show his will, his growing and strengthening independence. This also allows one to form such an important quality of character as the ability to achieve goals and respect oneself for the result achieved. nine0003

The child will learn to motivate himself with this experience and the feeling of joy and elation that will follow each self-conquest. An important nuance - try to make your comments for the child clear and specific. Not just "You're great!" or “Excellent!”, but “How glad I am that you managed to finish everything!”.

Second - say that if something does not work out, then this is not a disaster! This will allow the child to avoid excessive anxiety about punishments and disappointment in him and remove a negative emotional connotation from the learning process. For example, you can tell him: “If something doesn’t work out so well for you, know that we will always help you”, “We will not scold you for a bad grade. Let's just agree, if something doesn't work out for you or you don't understand something at school, speak right away and together we will sort out difficult places or explain to you what you didn't understand. We will always help, the main thing is not to launch the item, ok?". nine0003

This is how the child receives a vector of development - that is, he is not indifferent, his efforts are important and appreciated by someone. At the same time, parents do not viciously control him, but worry about him and are always ready to help and support him.

5. Share successes

At a family dinner or on a walk, you can discuss with your child that he has now become more adult, especially since he himself strives for this, expecting to go to first grade. And adults always have things that they don’t want to do, but they have to! Because it leads to such and such "cool" results. It is imperative to emphasize the very important and positive consequences of these cases with the “must” mark. It’s good that all family members tell the child what these “needs” they personally have and why it is important to fulfill them, what good can come from them. nine0003

At the end of the day, you can share with each other how hard it was for everyone to have their "must", but we - cheers! - dealt with them!

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Last general rule. When checking your child's homework, remember that the best way to master, remember or know the material being studied well is not to read it 100 times, but to tell it once or do some tasks based on this material.

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8 ways to teach your child to wait (and not whine at the same time). Without risking the mobile phone and the nerves of others

While it was the checkout line, your child entered the 45th version of the question "Are we still long?" intonation of a fire alarm, and also managed to engage in hand-to-hand combat with a cart. But you were second in line! How to help a child survive the painful moments of waiting and make sure that he does not suffer himself, does not infuriate others and, of course, does not get on your nerves.

Many have noticed that children can hardly endure the fascinating nine-hour flight, and even told their parents everything they think about the behavior of these ill-mannered. .. Yes, yes, mother... Sit down here, and he, by the way, is already the fourth with his foot in the back of the chair kicks once! nine0003

Yes, and parents try once again not to take the baby to a meeting on the problems of the oil and gas industry. What is there! Parents are afraid to take their children even to the ballet - although at the ballet, unlike the meeting, everything happens to the music and, in general, the audience falls asleep much later.

Question "How much can children tolerate?" occupies not only us, but also scientists. American psychologist Walter Mischel conducted the first version of his famous marshmallow test back in the late 60s. nine0003

The experimenter placed a marshmallow in front of the preschooler. Then suddenly the adult had urgent business, he went out, but before that he said that if the child waited for his return, he would receive another marshmallow. Children's ability to self-control was tested: whether they could postpone immediate pleasure and wait for an increased reward. Years later, Michel did more research and found out that those guys who earned a bonus marshmallow in childhood feel better than their comrades. In any case, their SAT scores and education level were higher, their body mass index was lower, and there were solid advantages in other indicators. It's no secret that self-control affects success often more than the level of intelligence. The secret lies elsewhere - how did they manage to curb the impulse? nine0003

Walter Mischel, in his 2014 book The Marshmallow Test: Mastering Self-Control, explains that guys who didn't eat marshmallows tried to distract themselves, and those who couldn't keep themselves busy had nothing else to do. except for refreshment.

On this side, gadgets are a safe bet. A man hits a zombie with a shovel on the top of the head and does not feel at all how the car is rushing to Chertanovo. On the other hand, at this moment he does not learn to occupy himself: to study a curious dusty pattern on the shoes opposite those sitting, to count the albino neighbors, to compose a fantastic story "The Adventures of the Handrail". After all, those marshmallow dough guys didn't have an iPad handy. nine0003

How to help your child wait without phones and tablets

1. Support and empathize with the child in his painful waiting

The first thing to know about a person who could not finish listening to the teacher's welcome speech is that he will grow up. The ability to control oneself becomes the better, the more developed the nervous system. The preschooler's brain is not functionally mature, and "Wait, the ice cream stand isn't open yet!" is equated to your refusal to treat him with ice cream. This means that now tears and tantrums can happen, in general, those things that make the parent feel awkward and confused. Here you need to acknowledge the feelings of the guy left without the popsicle, sympathize, perhaps find out what configuration and what size the waffle cone is needed, and go look for it elsewhere. Or not to search, it's not so important anymore. nine0003

Empathy and an adequate reaction to the strange antics of the child is exactly what helps him to develop self-control

The task of an adult is to empathically help the youngest endure discomfort in a painful situation. For example, in the queue for the carousel, instead of the angry hissing “Stop whining!” we can offer hugs, interesting stories about a girl who waited and waited, and then a ship with scarlet sails sailed and she managed to listen to the orchestra.

In general, one should not count on the unbelievable. Even if your child is already in school, you can hardly expect a three-hour documentary on accounting workflow to make him sit still with his hands folded. It will not be surprising that during this time he will have time to kindle a fire by rubbing the sticks that he cut out of the legs of the chair in front of him. nine0003

2. Visualize time

Children have a poorly developed sense of time, especially when we are not very specific: “What is unclear? I'm telling you - lunch will come later! Later". If we have not taught our daughter how to use a watch, even the phrase "I will be free in one hour and fifteen minutes" will not say anything to the child's mind or heart. When does the next come? When later? And what does the ridiculous thing mean: "Your birthday is still two months away"? It’s time to visualize well: “The match will end when this arrow crawls to this division”, “We brush our teeth while this sand is pouring”, “Dad will get up when the sun rises to that roof”. Use advent calendars, color in the days of the week, say how many minutes we go up the escalator, and that the cookies should be in the oven for 35 minutes, that is, the sand will be poured three times. In the end, the child will guess that 10 minutes is not so much on an eternity scale. nine0003

3. Show how time can drag on and, conversely, fly by Nyura. Play strategic board games where you need to starve your opponent out, collect stamps and observe wildlife. “See, right? The bird was not upset that the male did not build a nest on the first try. And here is the Siberian cedar. It can grow for 500 years. If we sit down to watch him, I will be fired from my job.” Show the fast baby some slow animals (Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles doesn't work). “When the turtle crawls to the end of the room, I will finish the annual report!” nine0003

4. Keep your word